Anonymous asked:Greetings Mistress Deb. Sorry to hear this causes you stress. Do you have slave perform duties to relieve stress? slave should be trained to do anything you would expect to receive at a spa. A good start would be training it to give you hot oil massages. This would relieve your stress while bonding it to you and teach it how you like to be touched.
Deb- I am a worrier anyway like most Mom’s. She gives a great massage and a good orgasm or two also find a great stress reliever
Anonymous asked:Greetings Mistress Deb. After work 3 minutes cold shower would be just right to put it into the right frame of slave mind before starting on slave chores. Let it braid wet hair into French braid. The wet braid will feel uncomfortable during a long time. The braid also will keep its face naked so it can not hide expressions behind its hair. What are your thoughts re the above ideas? Sincerely GM.
Deb- The braids are a great idea good weekend thing and shel had to do that today
Anonymous asked:Cold showers are a great humiliator, do continue! Have you considered to supervise morning showers to ensure it sticks to the programme: full blast on water - getting wet all over - stop water - lather up on body shampoo- rinse off with water on full blast - lather up on hair shampoo - rinse off - turn slowly under water until supervisor is satisfied - dry off in small towel.
Deb- Interesting idea probably not practical every day but great way to change things up from time to time
How have the Misses changed in their attitudes and actions toward the slave since she has been your property?
Deb- They have become more responsible and caring which am sure most see as the opposite of what you would expect. You have heard the saying absolute power corrupts absolutely. At first that was the case and they were mean, vindictive, and looked for reason to punish or degrade. Like normal teen girls, lol.
Anyway, after a few conversations, groundings, and role play they come to learn what it means to be a responsible dominant. One of the things I made them do was to be the slave of the other for a weekend.
To Mistress Deb. Thank you for your poignant answer to my previous question. For your first year anniversary of shel's slavery to you, have you made any plans to celebrate the occasion with others in a way that would further reinforce shel's position in life? For shelslave: If Mistress Deb asked for your input on this celebration with others, what would you tell her you wished was done to you?
Deb- I had not thought of celebrating with others and should give that some thought but right now ti will probably be more private. But a small little gathering around that time might be a good idea.
Anonymous asked:Greetings Mistress Deb. Have you noticed how followers' questions are shifting more and more from slave to you? I think readers are seeing you as the mover and shaker in this relationship and slave as the passive focus of your domination. As such I hope you will continue to welcome our questions and suggestions, perhaps even allowing us to play a more active role.
Deb- Yes and I appreciate that and love suggestions and comments as long as they are respectful of me and shel.
Anonymous asked:Greetings Mistress Deb. Was this "go back day" held on the slave's one year anniversary? Did you schedule this day to hopefully end the contract, or because you are hesitant to take this in a particular direction you are contemplating? Without giving anything away, do you anticipate we followers of "DEB'S SLAVE" will see as much change in the slave as we have thus far?
Deb- It was somewhat a spur of moment thing for me and really hit me based on a few comments on here in particular. I care for and love her immensely and we are reaching a point where there is no turning back. We both cherish the time as friends before but now both are happier as Mistress, slave.
Another big topic we discussed was me getting in another relationship. Currently have been dating another woman and also have had a few dates with my hubbie that am separated from. Shel admitted it makes her nervous but as my slave she would be happy for me and hopes there still would be a place for her, If not she trusted me to find her a new owner per the contract as she was committed to being a slave. That took me a little by surprise but also made me feel better. As I don’t see a scenario where she would not be in my life but things can change.
The next year there will continue to be big changes
Anonymous asked:Greetings Mistress Deb. As much as we address slave's progress under your training I imagine you too have benefited from the experience. I don't know if you work in management, but if not, you have gained managerial skills which you can use to further your career. I have wondered if sometimes a slave can be as tiring as a puppy, always underfoot and requiring direction from its Mistress?
Deb- Yes it has helped immensely with my management and time management. Before I always seemed to be a last minute planner. Now putting a structure and rules to shel have found that am doing more of that for everything.
It is not tiring but it is a different level of stress. It is more of a mental tired than a physical one at times. That is where this blog has been helpful with ideas and feedback.
Anonymous asked:I find this blog fascinating and disturbing. The former because it seems clear you are not playing anymore and I wonder where this will lead. The latter because She'll sons and Deb's daughter are I think too young to fully process what is happening between you two. There is a big difference between (1) educating teenagers about sex, including kink, and (2) exposing them to (kinky) sex. Plus I'm not convinced either of you realize that you are indeed doing (2). All the best.
Deb- thanks and from the other side might share your concern but you will have to trust that their best interests are still top of mind
To Mistress Deb. I believe you started out on this contract with shelslave in part to satisfy your sadism and in part because as your BFF you wanted her to be happy. Do you ever worry that you might be losing the balance between the two (remember that power corrupts)? Do you ever feel guilty about how you exercise the control you have over shelslave? Do you ever see the need to keep yourself in check and if so how do you restrain yourself? Safe, sane consensual is one credo. What is yours?
Deb- I would worry if I did not occasionally feel guilty and question myself. The best way I can say it is like disciplining your kids. You know it is right but you always question is it right and is it too strict. Keep in mind that shel drew up and did most of the editing on the contract.
A few weeks ago we had what I called a go back day. She was allowed to dress herself and call me Deb. There were no chores and no rules. The only slight requirement was at the end of the day we were going out to dinner and have an open discussion not as Mistress and slave but friends. It was a working weekday.
Anyway not going to bore with details of the day but she wore panties for the first time in months to work. A funny side note is she is required to call the women Miss and their first name, This day she did not and it was noticed more than once so it does have an effect.
We had a long dinner that night and talked openly about what has happened so far and what her thoughts were. I will say it was hard for her to go into friend mode and struggled not to call me Miss and make eye contact. After a few glasses of wine it freed up a bit.
One big topic we discussed was her serving her former rival.enemy Joanne. She said that was her nirvana moment. She was upset with me at first and almost used her safe word. But after an hour or so it hit her that she was now truly owned as she knew that I would know she would not like this. Also if I showed Joanne that I was serious about being her Mistress.
I am not going to give a blow by blow but suffice it to say she was very pleased with where the relationship had gone and thanked me. She then asked if she could again be my slave. I told her she had until midnight if she wanted or she could stop now. She said with a big smile, oh thank you Mistress. She also shocked me by reaching under her skirt without looking around and removed her panties and placed them on the table by me.
We left shortly after that and left the panties on the table. Once in the car had her strip and she quickly complied even though it was cold, She was so happy to say yes Mistress again. That was the night we began the cage training